Most of the people are struggling with their dead end job, failed relationship, preparing for a competitive exam, working on an already implemented idea etc.
Even when they are 100% aware that they are stuck and are going no where, yet because of various reasons like
- Personal ego
- Societal norms
- Parental advice
- Peer pressure
- Short sightedness
- Sacrificing mental peace over money
- Going after fame/popularity than happiness etc.
they are unable to move forward.
I know it's really hard, but these are the choice which strengthens one's inner core. I've made a quite of few those myself. Though, you'll regret it for every day for the first few months or may be years, in the longer run, you'll lead a hassle-free, satisfying, more fulfilling and happier life.
- BEING WITTY - Here's how you can improve this - watch funny TV show hosts like Ellen or comedians. It'll get you to think faster on your feet.
- SAYING "NO" TO A SLICE OF PIZZA AT 2 AM - Close to impossible when it's New York style.
- DRIVING CROSS COUNTRY - I did this in 2007 and almost fell asleep at the wheel multiple times. Make sure you have a driving buddy. And a really good playlist. (Dashboard Confessional, anyone?)
- COOKING AN AWESOME MEAL - And I mean a substantial meal. Like braised short ribs. Or handmade pasta. Or the perfect omelette. Instant ramen doesn't count.
- CUTTING ALCOHOL OUT OF YOUR LIFE - But why aren't you drinking anymore? Oh c'mon, don't be so boring, just take one shot!
- MOTIVATING YOURSELF TO BE THE BEST POSSIBLE VERSION OF YOURSELF - Here are my top 10 ways
- QUITTING WHEN YOU SHOULD - Sometimes, you need to swallow your pride and move on.
- TALKING TO SOMEONE YOU'RE INTERESTED IN - There's a lot of pressure on making a good first impression. Combine that with the knots in your stomach and nervousness you start to feel and it's a heck of a challenge.
- WAKEBOARDING - I tried this so many times in North Carolina. Still can't do it.
- NOT PANICKING WITH STOCKS - If you can invest without emotion, huge kudos to you.
- WRITING LIKE A ROCKSTAR - Writing with passion and precision is an art. Sometimes I'll sit in front of my computer with writer's block for hours before I can churn out a blog post for my site. Thank goodness for Youtube and Spotify.
- ACTIVELY LISTENING - Even after 31 years of living, I still struggle with being a great listener. Not just hearing the words spoken, but really listening to what people are trying to convey.
- SAYING I LOVE YOU FOR THE FIRST TIME - Making yourself open and vulnerable is a really hard thing to do. The first time I said it to someone (in Paris no less) I was really nervous and breathing heavily.
- CUTTING OFF BAD FRIENDS - It's tough if you've been friends with someone for over a decade. But remember that people change all the time and if they're toxic in your life, sometimes it's better to let them go.
Soccer tricks.
Or any other kind of entertaining skill that hands itself to street performance art, for that matter.
Whenever you see someone performing in the city, doing stuff like this…
…you can bet your ass they practiced years for it to look and feel that effortless.
If you do, don’t be one of those dismissive snobs that goes “Phhhh, I could do that.”
No. You can’t. Show the artist some respect.
When I was getting ready to move to France, I underestimated the challenges I could face.
This is what I used to think.
Wine, Cheese, Good-looking women, Eiffel Tower, Wine, Football, TGV, Wine, Romance, Fashion, Wine.
This is what hit me.
Lethal Paperwork, Transportation Strikes, Ordinary Customer Service, Small Apartment, No Elevators, Homesickness.
Moving out of your home country is one of the most easiest looking things that isn’t!
Image Source: Expatriates in Paris
- Speaking on stage.
- People who are good at it make it look extremely easy.
- Cooking for your family and then eating last.
- Moms do it all the time. Tried it once, failed miserably.
- Not littering, holding on to garbage till you see a dustbin.
- Indians will probably relate to this.
- Breaking the awkward silence.
- The longer it lasts, the tougher it is to crawl out.
- Not pressing the Snooze Button early in the morning.
- Sleep vs College. It’s a one-sided battle.
Stand Up Comedy - I’ve been doing this for almost 2 years now and let me tell you, it’s a lot more difficult than it looks. When you watch the best of the best do it like Seinfeld, Chris Rock, or Dave Chappelle, they make it look effortless. It’s almost as if they are coming up with everything off the top of their heads, but they’re not. Being a good stand up comic is a science. You have to structure and dissect your bits to make them as funny as possible while getting your point of view across. Being a stand up comic also requires you to have a high capacity for shame. Bombing on stage never goes away, no matter how good you are but it hurts the most when you’re first starting out. You need to have the delusional self belief that you are funny, even though you are getting consistent validation otherwise. Comedy is an amazing art form and requires a lot of sacrifice to get good.
Getting Good Grades - When I was in school there was always a kid who seemed to be a genius. Smarter than all of their peers and aced every test, no matter how hard the class was. I had a tax accounting class in college where the class’ average grade was a D. There was one guy however who managed to get an A in that class. Unbelievable. Students like him make it look easy. Like they just show up and understand everything. They might even skip class from time to time while you never miss one. Although it appears effortless, I know that an ungodly number of hours go into studying and preparing for class, to the point where nothing else matters. Not everyone is willing to sacrifice that much of their time for school.
Self Confidence - I truly admire some of the most confident people out there. They appear as if they don’t bear the weight of any of their insecurities. As if they don’t have any. Building up your self confidence involves a variety of things including self love, a knowing of your limitations, and a belief in your abilities. Confident people typically have managed to string together some nice accomplishments for themselves that they can draw on whenever they are feeling doubtful in their own abilities to succeed.
Working Hard - I feel like there is always an uncertainty as to whether or not we are working hard enough in life. We can always do this, we can always do that. That pressure never goes away. In addition, laziness is a difficult obstacle to overcome because working hard can be pretty uncomfortable. Pushing yourself to the limit in the gym isn’t always a pleasant feeling (especially if you find yourself throwing up), but the harder you work the better results you will obtain.
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- Being you. Unadulterated and pure, you.
- Honesty. Trust me, it is not easy
- Forgiveness. Only the strong can forgive. The weak hold grudges all their lives.
- Expressing your love to your parents. Oh yes. Try it.
- Sticking to your promises. Its easier said than done.
- Letting go. Of good and bad things both.
- Saying sorry. A 3 alphabet makes it so difficult. Any guesses? E.G.O
- Scoring full marks in any exam. Getting a 10 on 10 is way more difficult than a 9.5
- Waking up early. Seriously.
- Acceptance. Of your failures, peoples' faults, life in general.
- Being happy with what you have. Yes, the grass seems greener on the other side.
- Appreciating the people around you. Taken for granted, arent they?
- Not stalking people on instagram/facebook. I read this somewhere, you are comparing your backstage fiascos to their on stage achievements.
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